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Re: First gay couple legally married in Iowa

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Originally Posted by Traveler View Post
Well i wouldn't know seeing as like you i got married and don't know what a civil union constitutes. In our state i assume there's a huge difference in what a civil union constitutes to a marriage. However VT on the other hand probably doesn't, says a lot about Vermont really. Anyway i think the major chunk of difference comes in seperations; don't have to go through the whole tedious divorce crap and its easier just ti sever the union. Also as i understand it if a man and a woman get a civil union the woman can't change her name to Mrs and take the man's surname but what the heck does that matter as we only talk about it now because of gays. ivil unions is all basically for tax purposes and financial loopholes. Marriage gives that but for that you have to commit to love and all that; thus the state makes the assumption that (in theory anyway) you'll be together forever. That's why divorce is a lot more difficult.
I never knew it was a requirement for a woman to change her name in order for her marriage to be valid. When I got married back in 1995, the ONLY document I changed my last name on was my drivers license. I NEVER EVER changed my social security card and I signed most things with both my maiden and married names. I have a feeling that women dropping or keeping their maiden names and/or hyphenating names has nothing to do with gay marriage and has everything to do with women's rights.

BTW, if I ever got married again, I'm not so sure I would take that guy's name either. I can't see any reason why it would be necessary. I guess it would be something to talk about when and if I ever cross that bridge.
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