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Originally Posted by AdrienXII
Well, I am aware of it, but that wasn't really my point. My point was, it has little relevance in my life. How would my relation to other people change if they (and myself) perceived me as a female? My behavior would be different, somewhat, but not all that different, I imagine.
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How would it be different if people read you as female? I can relate some of the differences I hear from my friend, now that he's read as male. He now sometimes gets a response of fear, if he's walking at night and encounters a woman; she'll quicken her pace, or move away, which never happened before. Likewise, mothers may respond similarly if he smiles at their kid (which also didn't happen before). However, he isn't interrupted in meetings nearly as often, and gets to finish sentances now. Possibly if you were read as female, you'd notice that you were interrupted or talked over much more often, and that other women don't react with suspicion and fear if you encounter them on a street at night.
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So. Any pertinent change in that relationship? Pertinent to my question, I mean.[/
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Well...yes, but being so close to it, it's hard for me to tell what is really gender-driven, and what is not. Plus, he was *always* masculine in his outlook, and I realted to him that way. In other words, while most people read him as female prior to transition, I really didn't. Some things *did* change; he definately grew a backbone, and stands up for himself more often. Whether that is truly a gender difference or is a side effect of the degree of introspection and determination it takes to transition I can't say. He also is more outspoken and even occasionally agressive in dealing with people in general, and says that *that* is an effect of testosterone; like when this jerk was banging on the glass of the otter enclosure at the aquarium (the otters were sleeping) and while I was just silently seething, and hoping he'd get bored and go away, C actually said "hey, the sign says don't bang on the glass, how'd you like it if you were trying to nap?"