I'll explain : I'm not really the flirting type. I have never looked for nor desired a 'fling' in my entire life. Sex is the least important part of a relationship for me. I also have great difficulty approaching a woman. I have no problem approaching other men and starting a conversation, and hence as a result have had straight women who frequent the bars join the aforementioned conversations. Under those circumstances I am much more comfortable, and rather than 'doing the dance' as it were, I can instead begin with real conversation (and often with a buffer.) On most occasions, numbers were swapped, and the conversation continued. One evolved into a relationship. (Which unfortunately ended up on my list of regrets.) To sum it up, that particular atmosphere works better for my particular style of finding companionship, and I highly recommend it for others who are like me.

That being said, my choice of language under the circumstances was very poor...I was gaming at the time and as such spent a long time writing the post, and hence that line was written in very near the time that I went to bed. Sorry.

And, at least 2 that I've met in gay bars were the predatory types who were trying to 'turn gay men straight.' (Not telling them to take a hike was my regret in this case.) I'm not sure if I've had a bad sampling, but in my time I've run into an awful lot of women with that mindset. It never failed...in high school, I couldn't get a date to save my life...then I finally picked up a long term girlfriend, fell in love, etc etc, and all of a sudden I have several girls who never acknowledged my existance flirting like mad. And now, after getting married (going 8 months strong heh) I'm noticing the same behavior.

You forgot the cardinal rule: play hard to get. Women love a man they can't get. Proof here: -

Cheers, and hope married life is treating you great.

No problem regarding the incorrect wording - it happens!

No, he attitude was that women were far too civilised to be involved in anything sexual like that, LOL. This was after all Victorian england.

Silly Queen!

good question, I think being a bi-sexual female is more acceptable then being a gay male or a bi-sexual male....However i dont think being lesbian is more acceptable then being gay.

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Agree.

Not so sure on this one ... I personally think that it is. In the eyes of the majority, at least ... Some on the forum also appear to agree.

Isn't being lesbian synonymous with being gay?

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What prompts the double standard, in your opinion?

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I'd be interested in knowing as well. I think it might possibly relate to what I stated in my very first post in this thread.

This is interesting and I would agree with that. Where I come from there are far more Gay men than Gay women. Therefore making lesbianism unusual.

I think men more or less like the idea of lesbianism. However when they see in the flesh they are not so enthousiastic. I know men who like it on TV then when they see two butch women kissing and they nearly get sick. Lesbianism is fine for some men but only if its two good looking lesbians.

Some straight girls kiss each other just to get male attention and therefore are not real lesbians. I think real lesbians are few and far between.

Also straight women definatly feel less comfortable with a lesbian rather than a Gay man. Gay men are not going to come on to you but alot of straight women are terrified of lesbians in case they do.

I don t agree with any discrimmination but I would say its a hell of alot easier being a gay man rather than a gay woman in Ireland. Maybe in the States and elsewhere its different.