I recently visited Belgium for a meeting. I decided to make a weekend out of it (why not?) On Saturday I went out with my 2 friends.
To my astonishment groups of men in cars (Audi BMW) started pulling up and asking us to go with them, commented on our clothes, questioning our ability in the sack (to put it in polite terms). Its a pity I m fluent in French as I really didn t need to hear how vulgar they were being.
These men were mainly of Arab origins though there was a few French cars. Some men were even in their 30's how sad is that? That was their idea of a night out. We are all blonde so maybe that doesn t help but this happened with every girl.
My question is did their pulling technique ( In American terms I think its hitting on or in otherwords their ability to get a girl to go out with them ) ever work on any girl?

It must have happened once as now so many of them do it. Who goes in a car with men like these (apart from prostitutes) ? In that case why don t they go to the red light district for that?
Is this really an acceptable way of finding a lady? Does this happen anywhere else? Does it work?

What city was this in ? And what quarter, if you know ?

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They are probably conditioned that any woman out without an abaya and a male relative is a whore.

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Certainly not an acceptable way of finding a lady (not referring to lady of the night).

But louts are common in all cultures, not just Arab culture. Only difference probably being that some of the louts in other cultures are probably a bit more tactful than these guys! (general statement, not talking about everyone here).

This reminds me of a Seinfeld act.

Seinfeld: Good News, Bad News - TV.com

Good, Samantha, good! Men! Robin Williams had it right when he said that God gave men a brain and a penis but only enough blood to run one at a time.

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Uh-oh, man bashing? Can't we just all get along?

Good questions in the OP though. They were being dickheads.

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Sounds like they were out for a specific reason. I always had girl friends.
I didn’t perfect how to meet women till I was like 20. The trick is to not try. You befriend them and have a good time like you would any other friend without going against the flow. It’ll happen if it’s going to.

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Not to feel bad, It’s in every living animals design. We live in a world of pantyhose commercials making you think of sex much in the same manner a restaurant commercial will send you raiding the fridge… This actually is the reasoning used in Islamic women being covered. It’s because men can‘t control more then a few days of not having sexual relations (Hell, they/we can‘t even walk.)…

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Was that your first experience with guys like that? I'll tell you now...it doesn't matter what country these guys came from or what kind of car they were in there are just some guys like that. I've been approached by guys 22-60 with various lifestyles and all of them want the same thing. I've been offered drugs, $1000, and breakfast in bed (among many, many other things and not all at the same time, but by different guys on different occassions - and I've turned down every offer). Stupid things that guys say really don't surprise me anymore. When I'm out Saturday night and some guy comes up to me talking all stupid I'll ask him if that line has ever worked before.

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It only has to work once, and the urban legend will keep car loads of idiots out there for years.
Actually, it doesn't even have to work once, someone will lie and say it did.

As hard as it may be for you to believe, sometimes people do the craziest things, usually in conjunction with excessive alcohol use, there are all kinds of people in this world, and for some of them this is the reality they live in.

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OMG...that's the truth. I'm getting ready to go out. I'll keep a list of stupid things said and post it later.

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Hi Waronignorance, This was in Brussels, Rue de neuve.. But it happened alot in the city centre as well.

I live in Dublin and that just doesnt happen, Men would never stop their car for a girl its just considered what you would do for a prostitute.
However I lived in France for a year and I got hit on as the north africans are not used to seeing blonde hair and pale skin. It was alot cat calls, can I have number ? that kind of thing, guys would stop their cars or hoot but it wasnt half as bad as Brussels they were extremely persistant and you wouldn t feel happy walking at night.
Its just there was so many men doing this. Groups of 4 or 5 driving all night looking for girls to come in their cars. It just seems an insane way of trying to hit on someone.

I don t anyone who would go in car with a strange man (who was not a prostitute) but it must have worked once. Men who do that are looking to pay for something so they know what area to go to, so why target girls on a night out? I suppose its a cultural difference

To put it simply, yes it can work. I've seen the behavior over and over again, the bigger an asshole, the more likely some women will pick them up. Though, that being said, 'going out' is not the end result of that particular pickup technique. That pickup technique is used when attempting to gain a fast lay, and can work on women who want the same. Pulling is essentially an advertisement, and they advertised that they were interested in precisely one thing. Tonight I drove by an advertisement for this new tuna fish sub at a pizza place in town. I hate tuna. Therefore I won't buy it.

So, to answer your question 'Is this really an acceptable way of finding a lady?' flat out no. Well, assuming your definition of 'lady' is the same as mine, that's not what those guys were looking for.

ABC News: Searching for Mr. Right Now

Yes, believe it or not, there are women who just want a fast lay.

Interesting article - thanks for posting it. On page two there was a quote from a guy that said "...one guy said to me, 'assertive girls just let guys be bigger jerks.'" Is that true? Do assertive girls make guys bigger jerks?

On the third page there is a survey. It could be an interesting poll to have here.
Anyways, I went out last night but I lucked out and met a nice guy. He did start out with a corny line - "Did you come with your boyfriend?" and when I let him know I don't have a boyfriend he asked if he could be my boyfriend for the night. My first thoughts were to grab a pen and napkin so I can write it down so I would remember to post it. Before I dismissed him he showed his sensible side so I hung out with him and his friends.

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