Mae West once said that marriage is a wonderful institution, but she wasn't ready to be institutionalized yet. Don't give up on marriage, Beer, just go into it carefully. If you find the right person it can be quite wonderful. I didn't manage to get married to the right person until I was nearly 50 and it's the second best thing that ever happened in my life. Transitioning from male to female was the best because without that nothing else would have been possible.

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well then what's the point of even talking about it if we don't have all the information?

i'm making judgments based on various scenarios, which is as much as anyone can do, and we all go from there. in some cases, i think they guy shouldn't pay anything. in a specific few, which i doubt actually happened, i think he should pay.

if we're only going to debate things we're 100% informed about then we can just reduce this forum to a debate on whether or not gravity exists, then pull the plug on anyone who doesn't think it does.


...you know, i'd be for that.

Could we also silence all those who oppose free speech?

Debating things can be useful up to a point even when one does not have all the information. People can contribute background information that others might not be aware of and present different perspectives on the issue. It's the hard and fast condemnations that seem to me to be out of place.

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Well, he did marry Joan Miller and she took his name to become "smith". So she now has two last names and he should pay twice as much.

I can see how this guy is thinking. He married Mary Smith, who then became Mary Johnson, then she got a johnson and became Bill Miller. This guy is doing what most people do in this situation, trying to come up with a reason to not pay alimony.

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Anyone ask Hillary what kind of underwear she wears, yet?

Lt. Gov Diane Denish on Bill Richardson "The governor, she said, "pinches my neck. He touches my hip, my thigh, sort of the side of my leg."

In Reid Vanderburgh's new book TRANSITION AND BEYOND he deals with many of these issues of communication between people and their transsexual spouses. Interesting book.

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My understanding of the concept of alimony is that it's based on one partner (nealy always the wife) giving up career oportunities to keep house, take care of kids, or even just to live where the husbands career demands. Therefore, since she has provided support for the husbands career and 'invested' in it, as it were, she's entitled to some of the proceeds thereof if they divorce. I don't see how the above situation lessens his endebtedness- a sex change does not retroactively alter whatever support was rendered during the marriage.

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Are people confusing alimony with child support?

My state is a "no fault" state...which has significant pros and cons.

One of the pro's is there is no alimony unless very specific guidelines are met...such as if the spouse was in college and the other was supporting them during their education - they will have to pay suitable alimony until the education is met.
If one was the "bread winner" and the other had no employment, or does not make enough money to support themselves OUTSIDE of the care of any children - once the spouse gets a job, or marries again - the alimony ends.

I did. However, Britain does consider Alimony a form of child support. But, in this case, its USA so I erred.

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I guess when taken this way, it makes sense. How long does such an investment maintain itself? Until someone dies?

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It varies by state; usually until they (the one receiving the alimony) remarry.

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