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  • An example of some very good parenting

    So, a Utah school girl decides it is fun to go rag on some kid(s) who do not have a walk in wardrobe. She bullies the other girl through lunchtime, the playground and out of class so her parents decide it is time to teach the brat a lesson:

    A Utah woman forced her fiance's 10-year-old daughter to wear an unflattering wardrobe to school after a teacher said the girl was bullying another classmate over the way she dresses.
    Now controlling the clothing of your child is something that usually falls down to the parent of the child (unless say she models from a young age, but let's not go there lol ) and to judge a fellow student because of the clothes that he or she can afford to wear is pretty low.

    So teaching that child a lesson by putting her into such "handed down" clothing is a great example of teaching someone what it is like to be in the shoes of someone less fortunate.

    A teacher at the Viewmont Elementary school in Murray last week emailed Mark, the father of Kaylee, and his fiance Ally, explaining that she was harassing another student for three weeks, Fox13 reports. The last names of the family were not revealed to protect their privacy.
    Good on Fox 13 for protecting the privacy of the family btw by not mentioning her name. (Rehabilitation may work and the degrading and humiliating experience she got seems plenty sufficient here).

    The message from the school to the parents was a good step, too. It shows bullying will never be tolerated but at the same time they showed a common sense approach by contacting the parents totry get to the underlying problem and figure out how to deal with it. The parents (step mom to be and dad by all accounts) seemed eager to resolve this, too.

    As punishment, Ally went to a local thrift shop and purchased around $50 worth of clothing that she thought her daughter wouldnt want to wear. Kaylee said she cried when she first saw the clothes, Fox13 reports.
    Good on her for doing this and it is something for Kaylee's own good but seeing her "cry" when she first saw the clothes is probably an indication of her own remorse and a realization of what it must be like to have to wear such clothes every single day rather than just as a punishment. It does show the method worked, rather than address the materialization of the issue, which in and of itself is problematic. (Not realizing the clothes are not what makes the student / person who they are etc). But that will come for another day.

    Seeing her cry is something that may have made other students really think twice about bullying someone in such a cruel manner so in some ways it is a shame that nobody else saw her reaction to her punishment. Still, she was stripped of her day to day, (presumably) more stylish and fashionable clothes along with some of her privileges in exchange for being made to wear dungarees and whatever else. And even though Fox 13 did the right thing in redacting some of the personal details of the individual involved, the school will know who the relevant person is and the other students will see her walk her moment of shame.

    Not because of the clothes, but because of the come down from that position of elevation she felt allowed her the power to abuse other students for no reason.

    10-year-old girl forced to wear thrift store clothing as punishment for being a bully | Fox News

    Real great parenting:

    Mom gives bully daughter taste of her own medicine | Fox News Video

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    Re: An example of some very good parenting

    Good for her. Well done.

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      Re: An example of some very good parenting

      I've got a 10 year old daughter and a 22 year old who remembers what it was when she was 10. At that age, they are JUST (supposed to be) starting into their self-awareness and all the crap 10 year old (actually, 3rd thru 6th grade) girls put each other through goes directly into their self esteem. If the parents have not done a good job up to that point of building the child up, they get girls like little Ally there who think it's O.K. to torture other girls who don't "measure up" to their standard. Now, her intent might or might not have been to belittle the girl ... could very well be she's so insecure herself, that tearing someone down is one of the few ways she thinks she can build herself up.

      Whatever the case, I applaud the parents of Ally for devising and carrying through with that strategy. Nothing teaches like walking a mile in someone else's shoes. It's a lesson she'll carry with her for a long time and it does not overstep the "punishment fits the crime" line.

      Good job, parents.

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        Parents might have been better off through the previous 10 years by involving their daughter in feedings of the homeless, habitat for humanity, Church (if that's their thing), or any other dozens of things that would have put their daughter in contact with people who had less.

        What has the daughter learned? Don't get caught humiliating people or my parents are going to humiliate me.

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          Re: An example of some very good parenting

          "I'm afraid of a world run by adults who were never spanked as children and won trophies just for participating." - Unsure who, but they made a good point.

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            Re: An example of some very good parenting

            Originally posted by ArmyFerret View Post
            Parents might have been better off through the previous 10 years by involving their daughter in feedings of the homeless, habitat for humanity, Church (if that's their thing), or any other dozens of things that would have put their daughter in contact with people who had less.

            What has the daughter learned? Don't get caught humiliating people or my parents are going to humiliate me.
            That of course is possible. But the opposite could occur as well. You do it in hopes of the opposite.

            Bravo to the parent and soon to be parent. This was common discipline back in the 50s and early 60s when I was in school.

            They forced the child to walk in another's shoes, which is always a good exercise. Hopefully it taught some empathy and humility.

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              Re: An example of some very good parenting

              ON the surface I side with AmyFerret that this could backfire. However only knowing what is posted here we have no way of knowing how it will turn out. ( nor will anyone else for about 6 to 10 years)

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                Re: An example of some very good parenting

                And of course the results of any parental discipline could always backfire. And there are some who would use this as an excuse NOT to discipline. I have heard something similar voiced over giving a young person prison time for his crime. That he might become a more accomplished criminal in prison, a school of sorts, as he learns how not to get caught the next time.

                I am still waiting for some pop psychologist object to this sort of discipline, as being injurious to self esteem or some other selfish rubbish. There is a school of thought in our society that we should never hurt the self esteem, that we all should help to build up these little fragile egos, the egos that lie at every bit of the world's evil.

                I like the era in which I grew up in better, where we were told by parents, neighbors, even the public school that we were no better than the next guy, that we were not special little beings, superior to others, and that our material possessions was not a judge of being better, superior beings. What did matter was the character exhibited by each being.

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                  Re: An example of some very good parenting

                  Originally posted by ArmyFerret View Post
                  Parents might have been better off through the previous 10 years by involving their daughter in feedings of the homeless, habitat for humanity, Church (if that's their thing), or any other dozens of things that would have put their daughter in contact with people who had less.

                  What has the daughter learned? Don't get caught humiliating people or my parents are going to humiliate me.
                  I agree those parents would have been better served to be cognizant of how she was being raised before this ever became an issue. But even allowing that, THIS response was appropriate, given the circumstances we're told in that article Chloe posted.

                  As for what the daughter learned: Can ANY lesson learned be bad? Even if she only learns she shouldn't get caught by her parents ... isn't that one thing she didn't know before (apparently)? She now has at least a bad connotation along side "humiliating other people."

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